May 15th, 2016

Honor, Dignity and The Victim

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Written by: Gene

I just read an article about the rise of the victimhood culture, and the decline of the dignity and honor cultures.

In summary, those within the honor culture would come together and fight out their issues. They would go to battle to stop an aggressor and then they would move on. In the dignity culture, they would use a non agressive approach to deal with those who would attack them. In both these societies, people handled their issues directly by themselves either passively or aggressively. They controlled the situation, and then they moved on.

In a victimhood society, people go to a third party that has honor and dignity, and demand that they handle the situation. They become tattletales who demand apologies from everyone who offends them. They become unable to move on and become victorious, because they need to be victims to feel in control.

I would guess that the victimhood culture came about by mind numbing medications used to control children, that in turn prevent them from learning to walk in honor and dignity.

I would then add the lack of diclipline (first by authority, and then their own selves and their peers) that others are left to be targets of blame for their actions.

When I catch my own self being tempted to become a victim, I have to ask my own self questions based on these points.
1) Is my thinking right? Is my mind renewed by the truth? Where did my sources come from? Are they reliable?
2) What could I have done differently? How do my actions compare to the hight standard that I desire to adhere to? Is the other party that important or directly in control? Are they even aware of their actions? Do I even need them in my life?
3) When I take it to the authority, can I accept their judgement that I might be wrong? Can I afford the price of their authority? Do I want them in my business? Do I understand that this action will keep the offender in my life and prevent me from moving on? Would it be easier to forgive, or does justice need to be served in this instance?

I have learned that my own flesh is my own worse enemy. My flesh embraces sickness, pain, offenses, poverty, and any form of disdain and chance to be a victim. My flesh embraces these things because it loves the attention it gets, and it doesn’t care if the attention is positive or negative. My flesh loves the negative, because it gets more attention that way.

My flesh will even try to act like it cares for other victims, but in reality my flesh just wants o steal their attention by keeping them a victim as well.

I have also learned that my mind is wishy washy. I have to constantly keep it renewed with the truth. If I don’t stay on top of it, my flesh will use my mind to justify its behavior. My mind is the deciding vote between my worst enemy (the flesh) and myself (my spirit).

These principles are scriptural, and necessary to live a victorious life rather than being a victim all my life.

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